Identity crisis; the reality, how can we overcome identity crisis?
Can we meet you, sir?
I’m Adediran Blessing Benjamin. I was born on the 22nd of April in Ibadan Oyo state. I’m from Osun state. I’m a born again child of God.
I studied Political science at Osun State College of Education for NCE.
I did my degree course in Political Science at the Tai Solarin University of Education. I’m a music minister and I’m into youth ministry.
I deal with youths, children and I’m basically a teacher. But music is major for me.
Tell us about your journey in life so far?
My journey so far has been wonderful. I finished my primary school around 2002, and secondary school in 2007. I gained admission into NCE although I desired to go straight to the university, Post Jamb dealt with me. Although I got to know it was a ‘dealing’ on its own. I accepted my faith and opted for an NCE program.
I didn’t get the right perspective about many things, being the firstborn out of six children. I didn’t have advisers at that time, being a lone ranger. I gained admission for NCE in 2010 and finished in 2013. I had my degree between 2015 and 2018. I served in Kebbi State 2019/2020.
How were the childhood and teenage years for you?
I really had challenges while growing up. Childhood and teenage years were tedious for me. I didn’t have people around me because we didn’t really relate with extended family members.
I wasn’t really talking with anybody. I was bullied in primary school and I faced a lot. When I was in primary four, my teachers noticed my nature and my poor academic performance. They alerted my parents. Then I loved music but academics weren’t easy for me. I wasn’t a bright student in primary school, even though I was attended one of the best schools.
Due to bullying in secondary school, I told my parents I wasn’t going to attend school again. I was bullied by females. I changed schools and still faced many more problems. But I knew God was working in me during those periods.
My parents thought it would have been best for me to attend a science school or end up in a science class because of my love for computers and light, but in the end, it was commercial class.
Basically, I had no one to advise me then. I didn’t know what I wanted to be. I discovered my love for government and administration. I understood better what God had for me during my NCE, that was when I encountered him.
Did you at any point, desire to be like your peers, or you have always chosen to be unique?
When I was younger, I didn’t long to do what someone else was doing. It was a different case for me. I didn’t know what I wanted to do but I knew there was something different and unique about me.
Sir, What is your identity?
My identity is Christ because I don’t have any identity for my own self. In him, I live, I move, and I have my being.
What influence do the society and environment have on who you have chosen to be?
Many things had been defining me in the past, but presently it is God and it will still be God. It is what you allow to define you that will control you. Many things have presented themselves, my peers, the success of others, but I’ve refused to allow these things to define me. The director of my life remains Christ.
Who or what have you allowed to define you?
Identity is purpose related, what God has designed pertaining to our lives. The fact that people struggle to discover this is real, and I’ve been there. When I got home from service year with the lockdown and all, I started questioning if I was doing the right things.
My peers were doing things but I called myself to attention knowing this is not who I am.
Identity crisis, is it real?
Yes, and I still struggle with it sometimes. When difficulties arise you tend to question if you’re doing things right. But Christ has kept me going and the testimony of how he has helped me. God helps me to remember where I’m coming from and where I am, especially when I struggle with what he has called me to do. I do hope to write a book to pen these experiences. Struggles may still arise but my strength and hope lie in the Father.
It was a growth process. The more God reveals what he has for me; I grew into the reality of what he wants me to be. I overcame by depending on God and his directions.
Sometimes considering what God is saying does not seem reasonable to us, but his words have been refreshing and they have given me strength. God brings people in my life who encourage me and strengthen me.
How did you overcome identity challenges?
The best thing that can happen to a man in life, is to know who you really are. Nobody on this earth can identify the reason for their existence on their own. The basis of our identity in Christ.
When we get this right, he will set every phase of our life right. We don’t have any life outside of Christ. He is our identity, he is everything. Christ said the will of the Father be done, he didn’t allow his will dictate his own purpose.
A word for our readers
The worst thing that can happen to a man is not death, it’s a man who has not fulfilled purpose. The purpose of a man is dependent on God. One’s reason for existence is not compulsorily something that is noisy.
Some of us believe our purpose should be noisy and bring us out. Some of us are meant to be at the backstage. If we understand this, we would not be pressurized or pushed since we know who we are.
Some of us are meant to be silent laborers. The most important thing is to do what God wants. If you’re doing what God wants, you would have peace. Nothing should be chasing you, You should walk in the steps of your maker.
How can we contact you on social media?
Facebook: Adediran Adben Blessing